Well…. let us raise a glass in toast (with our meaty stew) to rash action! Here’s to rash decisions, whatever they may be, for they open avenues to the unexpected and unknowable next chapters of our lives!

I’ve noticed that, like it or not, my psyche likes to assign a score at the end of every dating-interlude/relationship:

(-1)you liked him, he didn’t like u

(0)no mutual interest

(+1)he liked u, u didn’t like him

(+2)complete mutual interest

Even though you seem to have scored a zero, you’re calls were an attempt to make sure it wasn’t a possible +1. It was just a carnal desire to somehow come out of it with a + score.

The_NYTimes_Stability_Issue…

Patterns and predictability in one’s daily life is, i think, a byproduct of something more foundational.

I believe we all crave order and a sense of progress-towards-goal in our lives, if we’re psychologically healthy. Order and self-progress, i don’t think, can be found without, but is a constant struggle for anyone who challenges their inner fears. I think when we ignore that struggle, block it out, we’ve given up on improvement. And i’m guessing that is the real, ultimate score.

.rob

I sometimes think that when the boy chemistry just isn’t jelling with anyone, it’s time to step back and lay low for a while. It usually means something else is amiss in my life and it just isn’t the time to be meeting new people. Honestly now, if you don’t really want to date the guy, your oh, so logical mind should tell you this is the best of all possible worlds…no messy situations to get out of! I have a guy that I met on line in San Diego. We talked on line just about every night for 6 weeks. I then went down there to spend the weekend. Lovely guy…no chemistry. We chatted the next week about twice, didn’t talk over the weekend, and then on Monday we chat on line again, and he tells me he’s met a guy…from San Francisco…who’s still in a relationship!…and I can tell he’s wild about him! I mean, it hurts my little baby feelings that he’s wild about someone who’s from where I’m from and who is in a worse situation relationshipwise than I am…but the fact is, I didn’t feel anything for the San Diego guy, well, not in that way. The only real thing hurt in all of this is my vanity. I just have to remember that it could have been so much worse…he could have been crazy about me and I not be able to stand him! The guy who cuts my hair says that fof every pot, there’s a lid. I happen to think there is more than one fittable lid that will come along. Ya just gotta be patient. And in the meantime, go visit Jonno in New Orleans! Hell, if he’d invite me, I’d be down there like a shot! :-)

Relax…breathe…enjoy as you may…

Brendan