Comments on: How Do I Get Myself Into These Things? http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/ Fri, 10 Sep 2010 19:09:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Brendan http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1506 Brendan Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1506 Well Jeff, you got one thing right...I do want to throw things at you. Excuse me, did I get this wrong or was he the one who didn't want to bring you home after first meeting...and yet you construe that as his coming on to fast? ....and, having a mirror at hand, I won't even mention how irritating the gray hair (and only at the temples no less!) comment was! Don't you know that us old men are far, far better in bed? Far more experience and we have so much more to loose so we pull out all the stops, all the time...well..at least while the Viagra prescription stays current! :-) And....further more...can you tell me how an evening's conversation and a little mutual tonsil research translates into a relationship? Relationships take time, effort, thought, work, and yes, time. And time. And more time. You have moved from Step A to Step Q, Jeff. You need to work on Step B next. Relax, babe...he appears to have potential. Don't worry about the folks, if he is 36 he will have been around the block enough times to know how to charm your folks...I'm just hoping he'll know how to charm you. Send the shitty committee in your head out for coffee and enjoy the potential of a new friendship. And yes, I continue to adore you! Cheers pal, B- Well Jeff, you got one thing right…I do want to throw things at you.

Excuse me, did I get this wrong or was he the one who didn’t want to bring you home after first meeting…and yet you construe that as his coming on to fast?

….and, having a mirror at hand, I won’t even mention how irritating the gray hair (and only at the temples no less!) comment was! Don’t you know that us old men are far, far better in bed? Far more experience and we have so much more to loose so we pull out all the stops, all the time…well..at least while the Viagra prescription stays current! :-)

And….further more…can you tell me how an evening’s conversation and a little mutual tonsil research translates into a relationship? Relationships take time, effort, thought, work, and yes, time. And time. And more time. You have moved from Step A to Step Q, Jeff. You need to work on Step B next. Relax, babe…he appears to have potential. Don’t worry about the folks, if he is 36 he will have been around the block enough times to know how to charm your folks…I’m just hoping he’ll know how to charm you.

Send the shitty committee in your head out for coffee and enjoy the potential of a new friendship.

And yes, I continue to adore you!

Cheers pal,

B-

]]> By: Jen http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1507 Jen Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1507 Tinman, Tinman, Tinman, (or are you Jeff, Jeff, Jeff today?). Life is short. In the blink of an eye it is gone. LIVE, DAMN YOU! LIVE! Take life by the balls and enjoy yourself! You met a cool guy that you liked and felt comfortable with. This is not a bad thing. This is not a thing to be overanalyzed. These are moments to be savored, and enjoyed, while they are here. Go get 'em, Jeff. Tinman, Tinman, Tinman, (or are you Jeff, Jeff, Jeff today?).

Life is short. In the blink of an eye it is gone. LIVE, DAMN YOU! LIVE! Take life by the balls and enjoy yourself! You met a cool guy that you liked and felt comfortable with. This is not a bad thing. This is not a thing to be overanalyzed. These are moments to be savored, and enjoyed, while they are here. Go get ‘em, Jeff.

]]> By: J-No http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1508 J-No Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1508 yeah, what she said! you're lucky that i live way out of projectile range or i'd start throwing things at you, too. :-) yeah, what she said!

you’re lucky that i live way out of projectile range or i’d start throwing things at you, too.

:-)

]]> By: Tin Man http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1509 Tin Man Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1509 Brendan, you wrote: "Excuse me, did I get this wrong or was he the one who didn't want to bring you home after first meeting...and yet you construe that as his coming on to fast?" My answer: Yes. Sex is not necessarily connected to emotional intimacy. Basically, he wanted to have more than just a one-night stand with me. Sometimes, you have sex with the guys you don't want to date, because sex is all you want from them. Meanwhile, if you do want to date, you're more willing to wait for sex. Yeah, it's weird. But doesn't anyone remember the movie "Trick"? Brendan, you wrote:

“Excuse me, did I get this wrong or was he the one who didn’t want to bring you home after first meeting…and yet you construe that as his coming on to fast?”

My answer: Yes. Sex is not necessarily connected to emotional intimacy. Basically, he wanted to have more than just a one-night stand with me.

Sometimes, you have sex with the guys you don’t want to date, because sex is all you want from them. Meanwhile, if you do want to date, you’re more willing to wait for sex.

Yeah, it’s weird. But doesn’t anyone remember the movie “Trick”?

]]> By: Dezz http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1510 Dezz Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1510 So many men, so little real connection. That's what Life In The Big City is like, of course, and the older you get, the more acutely you're aware of it. I don't think Bespectacled Barrage Boy is hurrying too fast or, worse, desperate (or, worst of all, indifferent). I think he sees you the way we all do: Someone too special to let get away. His extra few years (and they really are *very* few, y'know) only make him that much more attuned to that reality. I agree with the other posters -- but then, you do too. Re-read the last two paragraphs of your original post tonight, and do exactly what you told yourself in the last one: <I>Oh, screw it. I guess I should just enjoy the ride.</I> Amen to that, brother. So many men, so little real connection. That’s what Life In The Big City is like, of course, and the older you get, the more acutely you’re aware of it.

I don’t think Bespectacled Barrage Boy is hurrying too fast or, worse, desperate (or, worst of all, indifferent). I think he sees you the way we all do: Someone too special to let get away. His extra few years (and they really are *very* few, y’know) only make him that much more attuned to that reality.

I agree with the other posters — but then, you do too. Re-read the last two paragraphs of your original post tonight, and do exactly what you told yourself in the last one:

Oh, screw it. I guess I should just enjoy the ride.

Amen to that, brother.

]]> By: David http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1511 David Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1511 Tin Man, he's not that much older than you. Your age difference is less than me and my Seth's - and because of Seth's young age, our difference is much more extreme, which would make me more foolish either way. We are very much enjoying ourselves, though. One never knows what will happen, so take a chance. Further more, and don't tell anyone, I started templing gray at the age of 17 or 18. I was in need of Revelon long before your young age of 27, and I am only 29 now. Hair color is meaningless - it has no effect on who one is. Take a chance and enjoy. If you find happiness, your parent's dream will have been found true. I wish you the best, and I will keep reading. Tin Man, he’s not that much older than you. Your age difference is less than me and my Seth’s – and because of Seth’s young age, our difference is much more extreme, which would make me more foolish either way. We are very much enjoying ourselves, though. One never knows what will happen, so take a chance.

Further more, and don’t tell anyone, I started templing gray at the age of 17 or 18. I was in need of Revelon long before your young age of 27, and I am only 29 now. Hair color is meaningless – it has no effect on who one is.

Take a chance and enjoy. If you find happiness, your parent’s dream will have been found true.

I wish you the best, and I will keep reading.

]]> By: Jonathan http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1512 Jonathan Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1512 Hey Jeff, how about not having sex with him until you've gotten to know him for awhile? That seems to be what he wants. Date him, make out with him, just wait for sex until you've developed a real relationship. It works well, and you won't feel like things are so ephemeral and confusing... Hey Jeff, how about not having sex with him until you’ve gotten to know him for awhile? That seems to be what he wants. Date him, make out with him, just wait for sex until you’ve developed a real relationship. It works well, and you won’t feel like things are so ephemeral and confusing…

]]> By: pj http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1513 pj Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1513 yeah, what they said. i feel like i'm watching a t.v. show where the two leads are perfect for each other but the fates keep them apart, and i'm yelling at the screen or getting all misty-eyed or rolling my eyes or whatever- because i just want them to be together! this sort of relates to me reading your journal, somehow. oh! i know. i want you find some lerv! xoxo yeah, what they said.

i feel like i’m watching a t.v. show where the two leads are perfect for each other but the fates keep them apart, and i’m yelling at the screen or getting all misty-eyed or rolling my eyes or whatever- because i just want them to be together! this sort of relates to me reading your journal, somehow. oh! i know. i want you find some lerv!

xoxo

]]> By: peter http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1514 peter Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1514 focusing on the more important matter at hand for a moment: yay! new apartment! congratulations! focusing on the more important matter at hand for a moment:

yay! new apartment! congratulations!

]]> By: Brendan http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/comment-page-1/#comment-1515 Brendan Thu, 01 Jan 1970 00:00:00 +0000 http://www.tinmanic.com/archives/2001/10/08/how-do-i-get-myself-into-these-things/#comment-1515 Oh, all right...have it your way. I in no way have the command of the language that you posess anyway. I guess what I was trying to say is that he seemed to respect you enough to not want to hop into the sack with you. Respect like that is worth noting in any situation. Respect like that would sure earmark that person in my book as worth getting to know. Take it slow - savor it for what it has to teach you, no matter where it leads. And yes, the adoration continues... :-) Cheers, B- Oh, all right…have it your way. I in no way have the command of the language that you posess anyway.

I guess what I was trying to say is that he seemed to respect you enough to not want to hop into the sack with you. Respect like that is worth noting in any situation. Respect like that would sure earmark that person in my book as worth getting to know. Take it slow – savor it for what it has to teach you, no matter where it leads.

And yes, the adoration continues… :-)

Cheers,

B-

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