About Me

Who am I, you ask?

I live in Manhattan. I’m a former lawyer and legal editor and in the fall of 2015 I’m learning to become a web developer.

I’m gay. I have a great husband. We’ve been together since 2003 and got married in 2013 on the tenth anniversary of our first date.

I’m Jewish.

I’m 5’6″ and weigh about 140 pounds.

I got my BA and my JD from the University of Virginia.

What does the future hold? I don’t know.

That’s part of the fun.

Why “Tin Man”?

First of all, it has a gay reference (he’s a “friend of Dorothy”).

Second, the Tin Man was way too hard on himself. He thought he had no heart — he thought he was too cold and uncaring — only to find out in the end that he’d had quite a big heart all along. I used to feel the same way about myself: I used to think I was too logical, too unemotional, with an impaired ability to feel. I eventually came to realize, however, that there is nothing wrong with being guided by my emotions, with following my heart. (Though ideally, there’s a left-brain/right-brain balance.) I know that deep down, I’ve always been creative, with a keen sense of emotions; but deep down, I also resort to logic when the emotions get too confusing. I still could do a better job of toning down my logical side, but I’ve come a long way. So that’s why.

Okay, but why “Tinmanic”?

Because I wanted my own domain name, but www.tinman.com, www.tinman.org, and www.tinman.net were all taken, and I didn’t want a name with a hyphen. What does the name mean? Take your pick:

1. It’s an adjective. “He’s like the Tin Man… in fact, he’s tinmanic.”

2. It’s a play on the word manic. “He’s not just manic… he’s tinmanic!”

3. Tin Man? I see. (tinman+i.c.)

One thought on “About Me

  1. Just watched the documentary Vito which brought out so many emotions in me that apparently have been laying dormant for some years as I was awash with memories of friends lost and my own activism in that period,in doing so I started searching out people interviewed in the doc and some how found you. Just wanted to say how refreshing to read about the snapshots of your life in its normalcy which unfortunately a number of my friends could never experience,please continue to enjoy your life with your partner and I will continue to read and enjoy.