About Me

Who am I, you ask?

I live in Manhattan. I’m a former lawyer and legal editor and in the fall of 2015 I’m learning to become a web developer.

I’m gay. I have a great husband. We’ve been together since 2003 and got married in 2013 on the tenth anniversary of our first date.

I’m Jewish.

I’m 5’6″ and weigh about 140 pounds.

I got my BA and my JD from the University of Virginia.

What does the future hold? I don’t know.

That’s part of the fun.

Why “Tin Man”?

First of all, it has a gay reference (he’s a “friend of Dorothy”).

Second, the Tin Man was way too hard on himself. He thought he had no heart — he thought he was too cold and uncaring — only to find out in the end that he’d had quite a big heart all along. I used to feel the same way about myself: I used to think I was too logical, too unemotional, with an impaired ability to feel. I eventually came to realize, however, that there is nothing wrong with being guided by my emotions, with following my heart. (Though ideally, there’s a left-brain/right-brain balance.) I know that deep down, I’ve always been creative, with a keen sense of emotions; but deep down, I also resort to logic when the emotions get too confusing. I still could do a better job of toning down my logical side, but I’ve come a long way. So that’s why.

Okay, but why “Tinmanic”?

Because I wanted my own domain name, but www.tinman.com, www.tinman.org, and www.tinman.net were all taken, and I didn’t want a name with a hyphen. What does the name mean? Take your pick:

1. It’s an adjective. “He’s like the Tin Man… in fact, he’s tinmanic.”

2. It’s a play on the word manic. “He’s not just manic… he’s tinmanic!”

3. Tin Man? I see. (tinman+i.c.)