Contact Joe Bruno

Now that same-sex marriage is in the hands of the New York state legislature, it’s crucial to convince the Senate’s majority leader, Joseph Bruno, a Republican, to support a same-sex marriage bill. In order to become law, of course, a bill needs to pass both houses. While the state Assembly is controlled by Democrats, the Senate is controlled by Republicans, and Joe Bruno is their leader. In the past he has said that he opposes same-sex marriage. The senate majority leader controls what bills are even brought to a vote, so without his support, same-sex marriage goes nowhere.

He’s apparently changed his mind on things before – at first he opposed SONDA, the Sexual Orientation Non-Discrimination Act, but eventually he supported it – so he needs to be convinced that same-sex marriage, or at least the benefits thereof, is important.

Here is Senator Bruno’s contact information. The phone number of his Albany office is (518) 455-3191. You can call his office and express support for a same-sex marriage bill. Better yet, you can call his office and ask what Senator Bruno plans to do to support gay couples that already have children. Yesterday’s court decision ignored the reality that thousands of same-sex couples already have families. Ask the senator how he plans to protect those families and tell his office why same-sex couples deserve the same legal rights as opposite-sex couples. If you agree, that is. If you don’t agree, then you should.

And while Bruno’s support is necessary, it’s not enough. If you live in New York State, you should contact your own state senator. Find your senator by zip code.

And express your opinion. Senators’ offices keep records of these things, you know. A phone call may seem silly or fruitless, but it really does help.

Accidental Pregnancy

Some people, including Art Leonard in his terrific write-up of Hernandez v. Robles in the Gay City News today and several of the speakers at the gay marriage this evening, point out a bizarre irony in the court’s opinion. The court states:

Despite the advances of science, it remains true that the vast majority of children are born as a result of a sexual relationship between a man and a woman, and the Legislature could find that this will continue to be true. The Legislature could also find that such relationships are all too often casual or temporary….

The Legislature could find that this rationale for marriage does not apply with comparable force to same-sex couples. These couples can become parents by adoption, or by artificial insemination or other technological marvels, but they do not become parents as a result of accident or impulse. The Legislature could find that unstable relationships between people of the opposite sex present a greater danger that children will be born into or grow up in unstable homes than is the case with same-sex couples, and thus that promoting stability in opposite-sex relationships will help children more.

Basically, straight couples deserve marriage because they’re more likely to have children thoughtlessly, by “accident or impulse,” whereas, because gay couples have to actually want children enough to take deliberate steps to have them such as artificial insemination or adoption, they can be barred from getting married.

The old stereotype about gay people and commitment is turned on its head, but we still lose out.

Welcome to Bizarro-Land.

This decision is as insulting as Bowers v. Hardwick, the 1986 anti-sodomy decision that was eventually sent to history’s dustbin by Lawrence v. Texas. Rallies were held in Sheridan Square on the sad day that Bowers was decided and again on the happy day 17 years later when Lawrence reversed it. I look forward to the day when a rally is held in celebration of New York State’s allowing its gay citizens to get married, a day when Hernandez v. Robles itself is relegated to the dustbin of history.

And we’d damn well better not have to wait 17 years for it.

Gay Marriage Rally Pic

Dude! I’m on the front page of the New York Times website right now.

Well, my green t-shirt is, anyway. Someone’s hand and someone else’s head is blocking most of my face. And you can only notice the green t-shirt if you enlarge the photo. You can see Andy bright and clear in his purple t-shirt, though. We’re in the upper center of the photo.

Matt, unfortunately, is completely hidden.

Here’s a screenshot of the New York Times website right now (with Andy and me circled). And here’s the photo:

gay rally pic
gay rally closeup