Chabon’s News

Well, wow. In a new piece in the New York Review of Books about how he came to write his first novel, The Mysteries of Pittsburgh (one of my favorites), Michael Chabon – who is married to a woman and has several children – writes of his college summers:

I had just been through, in the years preceding my decampment for the West, a pair of summers that had rattled my nerves and rocked my soul and shook my sense of self — but in a good way. I had drunk a lot, and smoked a lot, and listened to a ton of great music, and talked way too much about all of those activities, and about talking about those activities. I had slept with one man whom I loved, and learned to love another man so much that it would never have occurred to me to want to sleep with him. I had seen things and gone places in and around Pittsburgh, during those summers, that had shocked the innocent, pale, freckled Fitzgerald who lived in the great blank Minnesota of my heart.

Three of Chabon’s four novels – The Mysteries of Pittsburgh, Wonder Boys, and The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier & Clay – have a major character who is gay or at least has homosexual tendencies. When I first read Pittsburgh I wondered if Chabon was gay, because the novel seems very autobiographical. When I learned that he was married, I figured that either he had experimented sexually (or was bisexual) or had a close relative or friend who was gay. For some reason I thought the former possibility less likely.

It’s totally none of my business or anyone else’s, of course, and I like how he discloses the information matter-of-factly in the middle of a paragraph. But even though we’re supposed to be blasé about sexual experimentation these days, it’s still a big deal to me that Chabon once loved and slept with a guy. I guess it’s because I’m gay and I’m a big fan of his.

So it’s not a big deal… but it is to me.

Carriker and Withrow

From Southern Voice: “An HIV-positive man has been indicted in Fayette and Fulton counties [in Georgia] on felony criminal charges for allegedly engaging in consensual sex with three other men without disclosing his HIV status, a violation of Georgia law.”

Although HIV-positive people shouldn’t have unprotected sex without disclosing their status, this is just stupid. Everyone, positive or negative, has to take responsibility for his own health and safety. Yes, it can be romantic to trust someone, especially when you’re engaged in as intimate an act as sex, but romance isn’t made of latex. As Jeff Graham, executive director of the AIDS Survival Project, says in the article, it takes two people to practice unsafe sex.

John Withrow, the 25-year-old man whose complaint led to the criminal charge against Carriker in Fayette County, also filed a civil suit in State Court in February against Carriker, claiming he has “suffered extreme and severe emotional distress arising from the fear of developing HIV.” …

The two men dated until April 2004 and had unprotected sex numerous times, according to the suit. …

[Adam] Jaffe, Withrow’s attorney, said his client is undergoing repeated HIV testing and has tested negative for the disease.

“He will be enduring real mental trauma for the next couple of years,” Jaffe said.

Huh? Today you can get an accurate test result three months after exposure, if not sooner. What’s with the repeated testing? What’s up with “the next couple of years”? If he’s tested negative more than three months after the exposure, he’s negative. (At least as regards Carriker.) This guy sounds like an extreme neurotic. I’ve experienced the fear of getting HIV, but at least I trusted the test results.

But I’ve worked on an HIV hotline, and he’s not the only guy with such issues. HIV-related fear and sex-related guilt (especially when it’s gay sex) can create a potent mix. People think God is trying to punish them – if not by giving them HIV, then by giving them the fear of having contracted HIV, which can be debilitating in its own right.

Yeah, Withrow shouldn’t have trusted Carriker (who clearly has issues of his own). He did a stupid thing, but luckily, he’s tested negative. He should be thankful, consider it a lesson, and move on with his life. His persistent guilt helps nobody, least of all himself.